This is a guest post by Camryn Darkstone. Virtual worlds have opened a door to BDSM for many people, allowing them to explore their curiosity about it in a fantasy environment. People who would never do so in “real” life can try on handcuffs, be chained and bound, and even submit to a Dominant, all […]
Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant Read More »
This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and
For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter Read More »
This is a guest post by Dara. What is Kajira? If you had asked me that 4 months ago I would have had no clue. Slave girl? Now there’s a term I recognized, and if you had made the suggestion that I would one day in the very near future submit myself to becoming someone’s
This has always been a fascinating subject for me. Humiliation, for many, is a large – perhaps even important – part of their D/s dynamic. For these people, there can be a very strong desire to be humiliated. But what is humiliation? We’ve all experienced embarrassment from time to time and have a fairly good
Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion Read More »
This guest post is a honeymoon gift from mi_vida. Let’s face it, we all have fears. I’ll be the very first person to admit it! In fact, I’ll do you one better and let you know I, literally, have a crap ton of fears. Well, the official ruling is still in debate within the scientific
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This guest post is a honeymoon gift from Agog. The one thing I have learned since I started nosing around in BDSM is that I don’t know myself nearly as well as I thought I did. I thought it was all about sex, that what I felt was missing was something physical, but as I
What I’ve Learned From My Young Dominant Read More »
This guest post is a honeymoon gift from MGbunny. Time is not always our friend more so if you work outside of your Tops home and have chores to do upon returning home from work, needing to make time to cook dinner as well. It then becomes the question of how to make real food,
36 Ten Minute Meals For When Time Is Short Read More »
Ever since I entered “the lifestyle,” I have strived to attend as many educational demos as possible. My local dungeon, The Red Chair, offers a monthly educational demo on a wide variety of topics. Since I have always believed that we should never stop learning and teaching, I make an effort to attend those demos
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP. I’ve put this question off long enough. It’s one of those questions that can cause a person to take a long, uncomfortable look at oneself, and I don’t know too many people who like doing that. My answer may not be quite what you expect. Men are strong,
Is Male Submission a Form of Weakness? Read More »
This is a guest post from Calliope. I’ve always thought of myself as a complete wuss when it comes to pain. My typical response to anything that hurts has always been of the “hide in my room and cry until it goes away” variety. Of course, “looking pitiful until someone takes mercy on me” has also
Exploring Endorphins from Pain Play for the First Time – A Point of View Read More »
In August of 2008, I entered the world of BDSM and, within a few months, found a steady play partner. Visiting his home was like visiting the most amazing toy store a lifestyler could ever imagine. He had all kinds of toys from homemade to special order. I quickly learned about various implements; I found
My Toys Or Yours? Building Your Own Toybag On a Budget Read More »
tina-poLD was inspired by the month long series of Domestic Service on Submissive Guide and has shared her own personal thoughts on the subject. Would you like to chime in? Leave a comment and let us know your own opinion! Domestic service encompasses many aspects of caring for a home and those who live there.
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This is a guest post by danae of Domestic Servitude for this month’s Domestic Pleasure Series. Menu planning can save you money, time and just sanity. I menu plan when I make my grocery list. I start by going through my pantry and freezer and throwing out things that are old, expired or don’t look good/smell good.
Beginning Domestic Service: Save Money, Time and Sanity with Menu Planning Read More »
This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service
Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive Read More »
This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant in the Submissive Guide chatroom. Since this is my first time writing in this venue, allow me to introduce myself briefly. I go by fuzzyP at the Submissive Guide and on other sites. In a
What Do Female Dominants Desire in a Male Submissive? Read More »
This is a guest post by Sephani. She contacted me via email with an interest in writing a post and here it is! Long-distance relationships (LDR) of any sort have always had negative press reviews and I’m sure all of us have heard the, “they never work” response at some point in time. Lifestyle LDR
5 Ways to Make Long Distance Relationships Work For You Read More »
This is a guest post by Aria. She has written for Submissive Guide in the past, you can check out her post on Two Dominants here . Today she brings a common Poly Relationship question – jealousy to light. Yes! Almost all of us have felt jealousy at one time or another. The best thing
If I feel Jealousy, can I still be Poly? Read More »
As a submissive, it can be easy to get into the habit of trudging along in a daily routine. You know what you should be doing: for some, the routine is detailed out hour to hour or even more so. You get comfortable and secure in the routine because you are confident that you are
What is the “Spirit of the Rule” Read More »
This is a guest post by SkylerPet. She has written a Pet Play Primer on this site and answered a question I sent her from a reader about what a human pet is. Pet play is something I’ve spoken of before and enjoy engaging in myself. For many though, they’d like to be pets, just not animals.
A Human Pet – Exploring Pet Play and Owner/pet Relationships Read More »
This guest post was written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first published on Sensual Service which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. It’s a concept that I can understand so clearly in my head, yet I have been struggling to find the words that will explain it to someone who might read my thoughts
On Being Worthless: Consensual Humiliation and Slut Training Read More »
