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Highly trusted and well-known for compassionate submissive learning, I have been providing wisdom to novice submissives and fostering a caring community for over 15 years. Welcome to Submissive Guide, where you’ll learn the skills to identify your submissive mindset, I’ll encourage you to be your truest self and help you discover a world of kinky possibilities.
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What kinds of punishments and rewards would you implement into a personal protocol as a single submissive?
Full Question: During my research on Submissive Guide, I’ve learned about personal protocol. I don’t have a dom currently and am looking to understand more about punishments and rewards for personal protocol. What kinds of punishments and rewards do you implement into your personal protocol, or would you recommend for a sub without a dom? Answer: One of the questions we get asked often is about personal protocol—what it is, how to approach it, and how to keep it meaningful when you’re unpartnered. Let’s start with a quick definition: Submissive protocol is a structured set of rules, rituals, or behaviors designed to align with your values as a submissive. It’s a way to bring intention and purpose to your daily life, helping you feel connected to your role even without a Dominant. If you’re exploring personal protocol solo, you might
Be a Cow! My Journey into Hucow Play
Curious about hucow play in BDSM? Discover a personal journey into embracing a playful, sensual cow identity. Learn how to explore your own hucow persona, build a unique “cow-tfit,” create immersive scenes, and connect with a welcoming community. Perfect for beginners ready to moo-ve into this fun and empowering kink!
Solo Coaching – The Power of “No”: Honoring Yourself as a Submissive
Saying ‘no’ is a powerful act of self-respect, even in submission. Learn how to honor yourself, set boundaries, and embrace the empowerment that comes with maintaining autonomy as a submissive.
Active Submission – Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant
Submission is more than permission—it’s an active role in D/s relationships. Learn how to make yourself available to your Dominant and foster a deeper, more open power exchange.
A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Power Exchange
My first experience of being kinky was in the bedroom when I asked my partner to tie me up and have his way with me. At the moment he emphatically said yes, I was hooked. Like me, you may find that exploring sexual submissiveness is a fun, exciting way to bring an element of power
How to Use Erotic Begging to Intensify Your Kinky Playtime
Want to spice up your kinky playtime? Learn how to use erotic begging to intensify your scenes, add elements of humiliation, and enhance your BDSM dynamics with your partner.
The Wild Side of BDSM: How to Safely Incorporate Outdoor Play into Your Kink
Exploring BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling way to expand your sexual horizons, and outdoor BDSM play can provide a unique and exhilarating experience for those interested in pushing their boundaries beyond the confines of a traditional indoor setting. However, engaging in BDSM activities in the great outdoors also comes with its own set
