Discover Your Submissive Identity
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Hi, I'm Luna, and I'll be your guide.
Highly trusted and well-known for compassionate submissive learning, I have been providing wisdom to novice submissives and fostering a caring community for over 15 years. Welcome to Submissive Guide, where you’ll learn the skills to identify your submissive mindset, I’ll encourage you to be your truest self and help you discover a world of kinky possibilities.
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What to Wear to a BDSM Play Party
Not sure what to wear to your first play party or dungeon event? From lingerie and fetish fashion to roleplay looks and budget-friendly ideas, this guide helps you feel confident, comfortable, and scene-ready. Discover how to dress for your dynamic and express your authentic self while respecting community etiquette.
Finding Sanctuary in Submission When the World Feels Heavy
When the world feels overwhelming, submission can offer comfort and grounding. This heartfelt reflection explores how to protect your peace, reconnect with your rituals, and rediscover the quiet strength of surrender during turbulent times.
Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t)
Series: Novice Submissives Start Here Novice Submissives Start Here5 Myths About Submissives and Submission 10 Things You Can Start Today To Be a Better Submissive Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t) Another 7 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Submission
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra
Submissive mantras are powerful tools for grounding, focus, and resilience in D/s dynamics. Learn what mantras are, how they differ from affirmations, and why they’re especially valuable for submissives. Discover practical steps to create your own mantra and keep your submission intentional, centered, and joyful.
Solo-coaching: Releasing Defensive Patterns as a Submissive
Defensive habits like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn often keep us from the vulnerability and openness submission requires. In this Solo-coaching session, we explore how these self-protective patterns show up in D/s dynamics, why they no longer serve us, and practical steps submissives can take to release them and build deeper trust.
How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission
Rules in a D/s relationship can be more than boundaries—they can be powerful tools for connection, growth, and maintaining the submissive mindset. In this article, I share how rules shape my submission, the emotional value they hold, and practical strategies any submissive can use to follow them with consistency and purpose.
