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When Submissives Go Wild: Sub Frenzy
Originally published 4/3/2009, updated and expanded 4/22/2025 Submissive Frenzy, often simply referred to as “sub frenzy,” is a psychological state of overwhelming desire and need that can arise at any point in a submissive’s journey. While it is most commonly associated with those new to submission and BDSM, seasoned submissives are not immune. It may occur after a breakup with a Dominant, during periods of unfulfilled needs in an existing relationship, or even when returning to the scene after time away. This state can feel all-encompassing. It’s as if a fire has been ignited, and the only thing that can extinguish it is indulging in the submissive desires that have taken hold of your mind. However, as intoxicating as it feels, this sense of urgency can cloud judgment, leading to risky behaviors and potentially harmful situations. Understanding what submissive frenzy
Solo-Coaching: Nurture a Positive Point of View
Cultivating a positive mindset is essential for every submissive’s journey. Learn how to reframe negative thoughts, practice self-care, and embrace self-compassion to strengthen your submission and personal growth. Discover practical tools to shift your perspective and build confidence in yourself and your dynamic.
What to Do When a BDSM Scene Goes Wrong: Important Advice for Submissives
When a BDSM scene goes wrong, knowing how to respond can make all the difference. This guide for submissives explores common issues like ignored safewords, emotional triggers, injuries, and consent violations—plus practical steps to recover, protect yourself, and build resilience for future play. Stay safe, informed, and empowered in your BDSM journey.
Drowning in Exhaustion: Navigating Submissive Burnout
Imagine being submerged underwater, the pressure building in your ears, the air squeezing out of your lungs, and the darkness closing around you. It’s a terrifying sensation that can leave you feeling helpless and desperate for a lifeline. The experience of submissive burnout is similar – you feel like you’re drowning in expectations, responsibilities, or
From Patience to Kindness: The Virtuous Path of Submission
Exploring new perspectives within the intimate world of BDSM dynamics can lead to a richer and more fulfilling experience. Today, I propose we embark on a unique journey that intertwines submission with the concept of the Seven Heavenly Virtues. We’ll delve into the history of these virtues, uncovering their origins and significance, and then consider
Active Submission – Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant
Submission is more than permission—it’s an active role in D/s relationships. Learn how to make yourself available to your Dominant and foster a deeper, more open power exchange.
A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Power Exchange
My first experience of being kinky was in the bedroom when I asked my partner to tie me up and have his way with me. At the moment he emphatically said yes, I was hooked. Like me, you may find that exploring sexual submissiveness is a fun, exciting way to bring an element of power
