Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. The idea behind the term is to actually help submissives understand their role, and isn't more than a faux paus. During interactions with your Dominant, it's a lesson to know that you can't control what is going on.
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Read The Review | Find SimilarIn BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor but they are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not so great people that left their mark on me. There are a few things I'd like you to look for the next time you seek out a mentor for your life.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt is possible that emotional availability is not the problem at all -- it's just plain availability. All of us have busy lives these days.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust because we have fears doesn't mean we have to let the fears dictate our actions or responses. This means we need to be vigilant with our emotions. By this I don't mean controlling them, it is important to feel negative emotions as well as positive ones, we don't want to repress our negative emotions but rather be aware of them and how they can affect us.
Read The Article | Find SimilarTolerance will grow in time, and will change. Most of the fun in exploring bdsm is in trying new things together, nobody can have everything thrown at them on day one.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarI'm going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf it pleases you like it pleases me to serve your Partner, consider adding service based play that involves other consenting parties. Adding things like hosting parties, formal tea parties or D/s dinners can make you feel good about offering your service.
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