Do dominant women like this, that or the other thing? Unfortunately, there is no one set of ideal submissive traits that can be emulated. Indeed, if you ask these questions of twenty different Dominas, you’ll get at least twenty different answers. Each Dominant has her own idea of what makes a perfect submissive or slave. Some like youth and physical fitness, others like maturity and experience, tall or short, eloquent or not-so-much, pain slut or light-weight, sissy or not, emotive or the strong/silent type… well, as you can imagine, that list goes on and on. The problem, as I see it, is that too many (prospective) submissives get bogged down in trivial matters when they should be focusing on simple truth and sincerity.
Read The Article | Find Similar
For a novice submissive exploring SM, a checklist can open up a world of fantasies or scare you right back into your light kink and rough sex. Checklists are not meant to scare you or overwhelm you, but I've seen lists that are more like lists of all sorts of rare fetishes and extreme play that only a few ever explore. Why you would want or need that on a novice checklist is beyond me.
Read The Article | Find Similar
It’s not cool to sub shame. But, in this world of kink, it’s a very real concern. Here’s how you can identify it and what you should do when your own thoughts lean towards being judgemental instead of open and accepting.
Read The Article | Find SimilarDo you think it is wise to approach D/s as a non-romantic exchange, or am I just fooling myself? Do you have any advice on how I can remain focused in this kind of arrangement?
Watch The Video | Find SimilarFinding your One isn't easy and your longing to finally use your submission with someone that understands and values it can be overpowering. I've been so desperate that I overlooked some very important safety aspects of meeting someone new. Hopefully, you won't make the same mistakes I did.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI just started exploring my kinky side and I've only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started talking really crudely to me and cornering me at parties to whisper horrible naughty things in my ear. One night he forced his way into my apartment, violated me and beat me with his belt until I blacked out. I don't know how to handle this because I've admitted I'm kinky, does this mean people will treat me like this?
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's always a good thing to look at your submission from different viewpoints and to reassess why you are in the role that you are. It's how we grow and change. It's how we see what's working and what isn't.
Read The Article | Find SimilarCreating a personal ritual that will work for your submission doesn't require some how-to book or any sort of religious calling. Anyone can create a meaningful ritual that works for them.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat to include in your own Butler's book for entertaining, so that each guest will have an amazing time and you can showcase your best hostess skills.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf you love the way wax feels drizzled all over your body, consider adding in knife play for the scraping or removal of the built up wax from your skin.
Read The Article | Find Similar
