As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dom/me is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dom/me. If you are playing with a new Dom/me and aren’t asked this question, my advice is not to play with the person. I have heard Dom/mes say that They don’t play with safe words or limits because They know what They are doing. How can a Dom/me know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them?
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Often the first collar you receive if your Dominant does a tiered system, a collar of consideration is when you’re under a trial period to see if you two are compatible.
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It’s a scary thing to know your submissive flame is gone and then to work hard to bring it back out without someone to submit to. I know that if I lost my way and can find someway to come back, that you can to. Give my advice some thought and try to formulate your own ideas for how you too can rebuild your submissive flame, nourish your spirit and return to some sense of normalcy in yourself.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLimits are personal boundaries that everyone places for how far they are willing to take things. These limits can be sexual, personal, emotional or otherwise. You may even have some for your every day that you don’t realize are limits. If you don’t have any BDSM experience, the idea of setting up limits can be challenging. Let’s dive into what they are, how to figure them out and why you make sure they are respected.
Read The Series | Find SimilarPlaying with other girls can be great, but it works the best when everyone wants it to happen. Not just 2 out of the 3. I think there needs to be an attraction too, in whatever form it takes whether it's physical or something else or that added x factor. For me I enjoy it the most when I play with someone who I consider a friend and who I am comfortable with, so I think my advice for anyone wanting to explore this is that it's best to find a good friend first and see where it goes if an attraction develops just like any other relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe first meeting with the person that you’ve begun to build an emotional bond with can be a pretty daunting prospect. Here are a couple of tips and suggestions that will help you during your planning process and throughout your time together.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe checklist is a great tool to track the progression of your submission. Have you revisited your checklist lately?
Read The Article | Find SimilarFormal D/s dinners are what many would view as a "scene" but they are not play parties.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarOne of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with your role as a submissive when either you or your Dom is ill. So how do you cope when one of you is ill?
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