Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Processing Pain in Play: Negative Pain Management Techniques

All negative ways to manage pain don't get the full benefits of the pain and neither does the sadist.

This is Not a Game - BDSM is My Life

I feel that there are so many who come into the lifestyle and do not realize what being a slave or submissive really entails. They come into the lifestyle having a certain expectation, a certain fantasy, but once they really get their feet wet, they realize it’s nothing that they expected.

What is Primal Play?

A primal play scene may look like wrestling or even martial arts. There may be pressure points involved and even rope bondage, but the thing that sets primal play apart from other types is raw, emotional, sexual feelings displayed.

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

It is okay to miss someone you loved. It is okay to reflect upon the relationship. The trouble lies when it becomes an obsession.

Channeling Guilt with Housework

I think that housework is a good way to channel any overwhelming emotion – in my case guilt or sadness

Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Submissive Rebound is often called sub-drop. Here are some ways you can recognize it in you.

Dealing with Guilt as a Submissive

When it comes to dealing with guilt, you have to talk about it. You can’t just shove it somewhere deep inside and expect that to take care of everything. Neither can you throw yourself into an activity and consider it done. You have to talk it out with the person, no matter how difficult that may be.

6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

For as important as after care is, it’s really easy to overlook or misinterpret what your aftercare routine should consist of, regardless of the scenes you’re practicing. Here are six easy activities you can add to your routine for smoother transitions after scenes.