The core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.
Read The Series | Find SimilarBeing an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free and sincere; even if we have a lot going on in the background. Living as an emotionally healthy submissive takes knowing what is considered healthy to begin with.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLong distance relationships are still relationships that require a different approach to develop the same connection and intimacy. Sure, the physical contact is far less than a face to face relationship but for some people, a long distance relationship is a smart first step or only step if you are unable to explore BDSM in any other way.
Read The Series | Find SimilarEvery single person you encounter can teach you something about yourself and kink. Even the smallest things are worth passing on.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat's dangerous is that more and more information that is shared has a larger element of assumed knowledge; the information you need to know before you pick up the new information. I'm not perfect either.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMany submissive men have fantasies which have been developed over many years, sometimes leading to a focus on extreme and/or specific situations despite not having experienced anything. This may lead to misunderstandings with potential partners between fantasies and actual desires as the sub man may not even be able to recognize the difference at first.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMany male subs portray themselves through their own words that they are selfish in that they do not actually care what a potential dominant partner wants or needs.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEveryone has gone through bouts of depression at one time or another. For some, it's practically debilitating and others can handle it in stride without much of a bat of the eyelashes. I recently recovered from a long time depression with the help of medications and my Dominant's caring. It's never an easy process, but being reminded that your submission is still desired can help.
Read The Article | Find SimilarApplying mentoring to a BDSM context a mentor is someone that guides and advises a newbie on what to expect, things they might want learn and other items. I believe a mentor should be on the same level as you. There are many opinions out there, but common sense advice can be found in the following series of articles about mentors.
Read The Series | Find SimilarLike all relationships, the mentoring one is not one to be entered into lightly - not because things have to be intense but because they could be. The main thing about a mentorship is that everyone is on the same page about expectations and that the lines of communication remain open. With that in mind, there are a few things to consider when seeking a mentor.
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