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Solo-Coaching: Learning From Failure - It's A Good Thing

Sometimes, failing becomes debilitating. As a submissive, we will make mistakes, and how we deal with those mistakes will show us if we intend to grow or flounder. You aren't defined by your mistakes, but by your effort. Keep trying; it's in the number of times you were willing to try that you succeed.

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I Will Not Support Your Affair: My Stand on Cheating

This is my personal stand on secret relationships, or affairs and how I handle requests for help from people in them.

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Journaling in Submission

One of the tools that Dominants can use for communication is journaling. But you don’t have to be in a relationship to keep a journal. How do you start one? What goes in it? Dive into the 30 Days of Submissive Journaling series or one of the many other articles about this very useful tool in a submissive’s kit.

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Juggling Daily Life and Submission

There are days you feel that there aren't enough hours in the day and you haven't even had time to say hello to your Dominant let alone serve him as you'd like to. How is it really possible that all the stories you hear about submission really happen? Are they living in a vacuum?

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Kink and Mental Health

Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations, our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free and sincere; even if we have a lot going on in the background. Living as an emotionally healthy submissive takes knowing what is considered healthy to begin with.

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Kink and Mental Health: Can “sub drop” be a trigger?

With regard to the question of whether or not sub drop could trigger a depressive episode (for lack of a better description), my honest answer has to be, I don't know. In this wide world, where things are constantly changing, and everyone's just a little bit different than everyone else, it would be impossible for me to say for sure how anyone I haven't dealt with for a decent amount of time will react to any circumstance.

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Kink and Mental Health: Real Emotion v. Mental Illness

Sometimes those around me can't tell the difference between my mental illness and an actual emotional problem. I do my best to reassure those around me that it's really not them, it's me. And I'm not always successful. And they often do more reassuring than I do. But without knowing the underlying cause, and figuring out how to avoid it, I'm kinda stuck. So that's something I'm working on.

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Kink and Mental Health: The Background

There's a lot of debate, in our kinky little corner of the worldwide web, about kinky people who have mental health issues. What kinds of problems they cause, how to keep them from destroying the mood in kinky venues, whether or not D/s can help a person with mental disorders, whether or not they should be involved in kink or dominant/submissive relationships... The thoughts and opinions, as with just about every topic of discussion, are all over the place.

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Kink and Mental Health: The Ethics and Legality of Consent

One thing I've noticed, with regard to BDSM cases in the media, is that regardless whether or not the law allows for consent, it's usually the first question the media asks. Did the submissive consent to whatever gave the police cause to arrest and charge the dominant? Followed by the question of whether or not the submissive revoked said consent by use of safe word or some other agreed upon protocol.

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Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

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Learn to Accept Your Limitations: A Personal Lesson on Teamwork In The Dynamic

Having flaws doesn't make you a bad slave or submissive. Being aware of your limitations and accepting them is a strength and can give you a huge advantage and even prevent you from making mistakes down the line.

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