We’re So Much More than “Just Littles”

There are a lot of people in the lifestyle who don’t know how to understand, let alone handle littles. It’s frustrating to be pigeonholed as only one thing or another. Littles are so much more than the personae they adopt for play or in their relationships. The embrace the innocence of youth. Listen to one’s personal thoughts on the matter.

Dating in the Lifestyle; What's the Big Deal?

I feel that we approach a Lifestyle date very differently than we would in a vanilla context.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

To me, the collar around my neck, the weight of the steel is the only thing I need to know that Daddy loves me and will forever hold more weight than a ring on my finger or a piece of paper from a government office

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

The first meeting with the person that you’ve begun to build an emotional bond with can be a pretty daunting prospect. Here are a couple of tips and suggestions that will help you during your planning process and throughout your time together.

Am I Trying Hard Enough? Learning How to Make the Most of Your Inner Submissive Voice

That inner nagging voice that never goes away can be both a good thing and a bad thing. It can help you remember your focus but it can also drive you insane if you’re not careful

There's No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

You do not have to be skinny to be accepted or to embrace submission. BDSM does not have a maximum size limit (or a minimum for that matter). Be you!

Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash

Each partner is responsible for making a relationship ethical. No matter what side of the slash you fall on.

Finding a Compatible Partner in the Lifestyle

Yes, it is hard to find that special partner who will give you what you want and compliment you in every aspect. However, think back to when you were dating in the vanilla realm. Was it just as hard? Some of you will say no, some will say yes. Those of you that say no, why is that you think?