Sadomasochism is the giving and receiving of sensations. In a lot of cases, this also includes pain. Many of the sadomasochistic tendencies bleed into our relationships in some form or another so what better discussion than to talk about processing pain. Now, no matter what processing method you use, there are ways you can learn to process pain differently to enjoy pain play more fully, allow you to take more pain and to push your pain edge further.
Read The Series | Find SimilarThis is a great book if you’re wanting to learn how to process pain better during play and is worth its weight in gold.
Read The Review | Find SimilarThere are three pain processing methods we are going to talk about today. They are acceptance, denial and devouring. Two of these methods are very common, and the third while being rare happens to be where pure masochists place themselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAll negative ways to manage pain don't get the full benefits of the pain and neither does the sadist.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPart of your receiving is also an exchange for the top. They want to watch you process that pain in open and positive ways so that they can get energy from it. I guess you could call a good sadist as an energy vampire along those lines.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLearning to accept pain has various methods. I suggest you practice these the next time you play and find one or more that work best for you. The best way to learn a processing technique is to practice.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are two common methods to positively process pain. Dispersion and Release are more like titles for a range of positive techniques.
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