In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is about the BDSM Switch. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarNot long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarSubspace is a mental and physical response to the high levels of endorphins produced during play. It can manifest in many different ways and no one subspace is the same as another.
Read The Article | Find SimilarQuestion is can you explain why she might throw up like that and what was going on for her - she is fine the next day and wanting to do it again -
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Read The Article | Find SimilarI'm going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEvery single submissive who has experienced sub space describes it differently and you too can expect to feel something different if you ever reach that sensory high.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarYes, you can be a parent and a kinkster at the same time. Let’s debunk some of the things people believe about why you can’t be both.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs a kinkster, there’s a chance that, eventually, they’ll see or hear something and ask you about it. You’ve answered questions about poop, penises, and what those ducks were doing to one another in the park (or was that just me?). You’ve got this.
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