The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

Negotiating play is vital for new players or for those who have never played together. Once you get to know someone it is likely that unless you have something you'd really like to experience you can forego some negotiation for spontaneity.

Domesticity: The Bedroom

The bedroom in most homes is supposed to be a refuge from the stress of the world; to reconnect with your partner and to recharge after a hard day at work. However, it is commonly the last room people clean and organize to suit their needs.

How to Use Role Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life

A lot of what we do can classify itself under role-playing. In fact D/s is a form of role-play. For many people it is just a character they don to play or have some kinky fun; it's not a part of their personality. The idea of role playing is taking on another persona other than yourself to enact that character. It can be short or long term.

How to Create a Morning Ritual to Streamline Your Routine

Morning rituals are fantastic ways of setting routine and developing a focusing meditation bright and early in the day. I've had morning rituals off an on throughout my service and they are quite enjoyable. I've not maintained one since I became a stay at home submissive and certainly this would be a good time to recreate one, I think.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

You Are What You Read: What Got You Into BDSM and D/s?

Some people think it is to do with their nature from birth, others think it is how they are nurtured and what they experience in life. I think perhaps I am somewhere between the middle in my belief on that issue.

Master's Banquet - A formal D/s Feast

Formal D/s dinners are what many would view as a "scene" but they are not play parties.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Creating a Stockpile - A Buffer For Any Size Home

You will save money, stress and help supply your home during lean times with a stockpile, no matter the size of your home.