Negotiating play is vital for new players or for those who have never played together. Once you get to know someone it is likely that unless you have something you'd really like to experience you can forego some negotiation for spontaneity.
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As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them for what their submissive has shared with them from the site. And so, I went on a little exploration of the site with new eyes. How would a new Dominant use Submissive Guide to learn and explore their budding relationship with a submissive?
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I've been following an epic thread on consent for months now, watching sadly as many of the comments devolve into dangerously magical thinking and wishing somebody would speak up, and say "Whoa. There's a point at which personal responsibility comes into play here."
Read The Article | Find SimilarThis is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all about.
Read The Review | Find SimilarThe bedroom in most homes is supposed to be a refuge from the stress of the world; to reconnect with your partner and to recharge after a hard day at work. However, it is commonly the last room people clean and organize to suit their needs.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEverytime we talk about sex and sexually related activities such as many of the BDSM and kinky play we do it's important, if not imperative, that we are safe and aware of the most common sexually transmitted diseases and infections you can get. You should have tests for STDs regularly if you choose to have multiple partners, or if you are changing partners. Maintaining a clean bill of sexual health will provide yourself and your partner(s) with reassurance and safety. Even though you may be disease free does not mean you shouldn't practice safe sex. If you need a refresher, check the previous post on safer kinky sex practices.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMany of the BDSM activities we may engage in are inherently sexual in nature, even if no sex actually occurs. Being aware and using safe sex barriers when necessary is your protection from disease and infection. I'm amazed by casual play partners that don't employ these simple techniques to protect themselves and future partners. But even monogamous relationships might use safe sex barriers to prevent pregnancy and for ease of clean up.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs submissives we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMost often we associate this term with the time frame immediately following a 'scene'. However, this term is equally applicable at many other points and times and many times is not associated with BDSM or D/s at all.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat does it mean to hit the wall? Let's explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.
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