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Munches

If you’re new, you may have never heard of munches. They are basically gatherings of kinky folk that get together to share food and friendship in a casual atmosphere. But how do you find one? What are they like? Will you be stared at? Let’s answer the questions and dispel the worry and encourage you to head out into the world to your local BDSM community.

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I Found a Munch, Now What?

Some tips for getting out to a munch on the right foot.

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Igniting Sexual Desire - Submissive Mediation Monday

Initiate sex. Flirt with your partner. Pounce when they are unaware. Share your passion with them.

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I'm New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information?

Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don't know a whole lot about BDSM.

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I'm Ready to Get Kinky, How Do I Talk To My Partner?

I am not satisfied with my boyfriend. I don't know how to go about telling him, I want to be dominated.

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[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

A lovely infographic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners.

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Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

It all starts with your mind. As a submissive, if you feel that it just can't happen then it won't. You have to be willing to accept the possibility that an orgasm without physical stimulus is possible and that you want it.

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‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that's kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.

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In Readiness - Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it's always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I've gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care and aftercare into one list.

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Introducing BDSM to Your Partner

It is a scary proposition to approach your partner who may be oblivious to your new desires about wanting to add a bit or a lot of kink to your relationship. Whatever they decide it’s up to you on how you proceed. If they want to give it a try – go ahead! If they are far from interested you still have avenues available to you. It doesn’t automatically mean the end of the relationship.

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Is BDSM the Nerds and Geeks Club?

Dan Savage asked if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into BDSM. It was meant to be a joke, but in all truth, there has to be something to this as I've seen it myself. Now maybe it's because I'm more sensitive to seeing nerds and geeks, or should I say advanced intellectuals, being more into BDSM than other forms of sexuality. I am, after all a nerd myself and my Master is a geek. We get along better with nerdy and geeky friends than we do others because of the common topics that keep coming up.

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