FetLife - AMA - Membership Drive Special Event
2025-09-24
We’re excited to share that during this year’s Membership Drive, we’re hosting a series of Ask Me Anything (AMA) sessions across Patreon, Discord, and FetLife!
Each AMA will run for 24 hours, and you’ll be able to drop in your questions about submission, BDSM, relationships, Submissive Guide, or Luna’s personal submissive journey. We’ll answer as many as we can — keeping in mind that we may choose not to answer anything too personal or inappropriate.
These sessions are a fun way to connect, get your burning questions answered, and join the conversation happening across our community.
https://fetlife.com/submissiveguide

September Watch Party on Discord
2025-09-25 19:00 - 20:00 (America/Chicago) | Our Discord Server
🎉 We’re hosting a monthly watch party exclusively in our Discord server – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: What’s In a Sensation Play Kit?
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 RSVP in our Discord & mark your calendars! https://subgui.de/chat

October’s Book of the Month on Patreon: The Online Submissive
2025-10-01 - 2025-10-31 | Submissive Guide on Patreon
In this ebook, I will help you learn how to create a personal ad that gets results, what to do once you’ve started connecting with a Dominant, and the tools and ideas you can use to make your D/s relationship intimate and connected, even if meeting each other isn’t possible.
Read the book’s details on Submissive Guide
Get a Free Copy When You Join Our Patreon!
As a special offer for our community members, sign up for our Library Card tier on Patreon and get your copy for free! Plus, you’ll be supporting positive BDSM education.
Not ready for free books? Cheer Squad Patrons enjoy 15% off, and Students get 30% off every ebook at Shop Submissive Guide. Secure your copy today and enjoy the savings!
Click here to join: https://patreon.com/subguide/membership
Let’s delve deeper together!
What is Submissive Guide on Patreon?
We are a thriving community of submissives and the Dominants who support us. Since 2009, Submissive Guide has provided down-to-earth BDSM education, helping people explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy, supportive way. Our mission continues to be to offer education that helps you learn and grow in your BDSM journey.
By joining Submissive Guide on Patreon, you’ll not only support this positive BDSM education but also get exclusive access to our newest content, sneak peeks, and private chats on Discord. Wherever you are on your submissive path, we’re here to help.

Discord Community Munch: Kink Etiquette: Rules That Aren’t Written Down
2025-10-11 19:00 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
This Friday, October 10, at 7 PM CST, our Discord server will host our monthly munch, featuring the topic: Kink Etiquette: Rules That Aren’t Written Down 💡
Munches are casual, friendly gatherings to discuss important ideas, share experiences, and connect with fellow community members. 💬✨ Whether it’s your first munch or your fiftieth, come as you are and join the discussion!
📍 Where: Our Discord Server
We can’t wait to see you there!

October Discord Watch Party!
2025-10-22 19:00 - 20:00 | Our Discord Server
🎉 We’re hosting a monthly watch party exclusively in our Discord server – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: What’s In a Sensation Play Kit?
📅 Date & Time: October 22, 2025, 7PM CST
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 RSVP in our Discord & mark your calendars! https://subgui.de/chat

November's Book of the Month for Patreon: Exploring Anal Pleasures
2025-11-01 - 2025-11-30 | Submissive Guide on Patreon
We’re thrilled to announce our Book of the Month for November 2025: “Exploring Anal Pleasures”!
Discover the art of anal play to unlock new dimensions of pleasure and vulnerability within the context of BDSM and power dynamics. This book covers essential foundations for a fulfilling journey, from communication and consent to safety and hygiene.
Read the book’s details on Submissive Guide
How to Get a Free Copy
As a special offer for our community members, sign up for our Library Card tier on Patreon and get your copy for free! Plus, you’ll be supporting positive BDSM education.
Not ready for free books? Cheer Squad Patrons enjoy 15% off, and Students get 30% off every ebook at Shop Submissive Guide. Secure your copy today and enjoy the savings!
Click here to join: https://patreon.com/subguide/membership
Let’s delve deeper together!

What is Submissive Guide on Patreon?
We are a community of new and experienced submissives and the Dominants who support us. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.
Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.
In our Patreon, you will be supporting positive BDSM education for the future. You’ll get access to sneak peeks and behind-the-scenes work for all of our newest educational content. Some of the best Submissive Guide has to offer. We’ll continue the conversation in private chat on Discord. No matter where you are on your journey, we’ll be there.
Join Now- https://subgui.de/patreon

Discord Community Munch
2025-11-07 19:00 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
Friday Plans? Let’s Have a Munch! 🎉
Our Discord Community Munch is happening this Friday, November 7, at 7 PM CST!
This month, we’re exploring “I’m Tired, but Still Me”: Navigating Burnout as a Kinky Person. 💡 Whether you’re new or experienced, let’s chat, connect, and learn from one another. 💬✨
📍 Where: Our Discord Server: subgui.de/chat
Bring your positive vibes and join the conversation! 🌟

Submissive Forum on Dating Challenges and Vetting Dominants
2025-11-21 19:30 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
Join us on November 21, 2025, in the Submissive Forum voice chat on our Discord server for a Submissive Forum.
Topic: Dating Challenges and Vetting Dominants
The Submissive Forum is open to all who identify as an s-type role, including switches with your sub hat on. The forum will present a topic for discussion and then be open to any questions and discussions about submission.
To join our Discord server, click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
As with all of our Forums, this is a sacred space that is non-judgmental and confidential. Let’s offer each other support and guidance in a safe environment. To encourage a safe space for our attendees, no Dominants are permitted.
About Our Discord Server
Our Discord server is open to everyone 18 years of age and older. Sign up before the forum so you can test our server and your headset before we start. If you run into any problems, contact a server moderator for assistance.
To join our Discord server, click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
How to connect to an Age-Restricted Discord server from an Apple device: https://support.discord.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500005292701-Accessing-an-NSFW-Server-FAQ
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide?
The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

Don’t Miss December’s Book of the Month: Guide to Your First Munch
2025-12-01 - 2025-12-31 | Submissive Guide on Patreon
We’re thrilled to announce our Book of the Month for December 2025: “Guide to Your First Munch”!
In this ebook, I will help you learn to make entering the local and regional BDSM community where you are – anywhere you are, painless and easy! Even being shy won’t be an obstacle anymore because you’ll have taken the steps necessary to assure yourself you are safe and secure, and welcome!
Read the book’s details on Submissive Guide
How to Get a Free Copy
As a special offer for our community members, sign up for our Library Card tier on Patreon and get your copy for free! Plus, you’ll be supporting positive BDSM education.
Not ready for free books? Cheer Squad Patrons enjoy 15% off, and Students get 30% off every ebook at Shop Submissive Guide. Secure your copy today and enjoy the savings!
Click here to join: https://patreon.com/subguide/membership
Let’s delve deeper together!
What is Submissive Guide on Patreon?
We are a community of new and experienced submissives and the Dominants who support us. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.
Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.
In our Patreon, you will be supporting positive BDSM education for the future. You’ll get access to sneak peeks and behind-the-scenes work for all of our newest educational content. Some of the best Submissive Guide has to offer. We’ll continue the conversation in private chat on Discord. No matter where you are on your journey, we’ll be there.
Join Now- https://subgui.de/patreon

December Discord Munch
2025-12-05 19:00 - 20:30 | Our Discord Server
Friday Plans? Let’s Have a Munch! 🎉
Our Discord Community Munch is happening this Friday December 5th, 2025 at 7PM CST!
This month, we’re exploring BDSM toys! Come talk about your favorites and where you got them. 💡 Whether you’re new or experienced, let’s chat, connect, and learn from one another. 💬✨
📍 Where: Our Discord Server: subgui.de/chat
Bring your positive vibes and join the conversation! 🌟

Join Our December Watch Party!
2025-12-12 19:00 - 20:00 | Our Discord Server
We’re hosting a monthly watch party exclusively in our Discord server – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: Building a Personal Dungeon
📅 Date & Time: December 12, 2025 at 7PM CST
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 RSVP in our Discord & mark your calendars! https://subgui.de/chat
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

December Submissive Forum - A Holiday Party
2025-12-19 19:30 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
Join us on December 19, 2025, in the Submissive Forum voice chat on our Discord server for our Submissive Forum.
Topic: Ask all your questions and celebrate the holidays with us!
The Submissive Forum is open to all who identify as an s-type role, including switches with your sub hat on. The forum will present a topic for discussion and then be open to any questions and discussions about submission.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
How to connect to an Age-Restricted Discord server from an Apple device: https://support.discord.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500005292701-Accessing-an-NSFW-Server-FAQ
As with all of our Forums, this is a sacred space that is non-judgmental and confidential. Let’s all offer each other support and guidance in a safe environment. To encourage a safe space for our attendees, no Dominants are permitted.
Our Discord server is open to everyone 18 years of age and older. Make sure you sign up before the forum so you can test out our server and your headset before we start. If you run into any problems, contact one of the server admins for assistance.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
Want to learn more? Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal. http://submissiveguide.com
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

Friday Plans? Let’s Have a Munch! 🎉
2026-01-09 19:00 - 20:30 | Our Discord Server
Our Discord Community Munch is happening this Friday, January 9, 2026 at 7PM CST!
This month, we’re exploring
“What’s in Your Starter Kit?”
Come prepared to share one item they’d put in a beginner BDSM kit — practical or silly. 💡 Whether you’re new or experienced, let’s chat, connect, and learn from one another. 💬✨
📍 Where: Our Discord Server: subgui.de/chat
Bring your positive vibes and join the conversation! 🌟

Join Our January Watch Party!
2026-01-16 19:00 - 20:00 | Our Discord Server
We’re hosting a monthly watch party exclusively in our Discord server – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: “Negotiation 101” — Consent, Limits, and Setting Up a Scene
📅 Date & Time: January 16, 2026 at 7PM CST
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 RSVP in our Discord & mark your calendars! https://subgui.de/chat
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

January Submissive Forum - Types of Submission
2026-01-23 19:30 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
Join us on January 23, 2026, in the Submissive Forum voice chat on our Discord server for our Submissive Forum.
Topic: Types of Submission: Finding Who You Are
The Submissive Forum is open to all who identify as an s-type role, including switches with your sub hat on. The forum will present a topic for discussion and then be open to any questions and discussions about submission.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
How to connect to an Age-Restricted Discord server from an Apple device: https://support.discord.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500005292701-Accessing-an-NSFW-Server-FAQ
As with all of our Forums, this is a sacred space that is non-judgmental and confidential. Let’s all offer each other support and guidance in a safe environment. To encourage a safe space for our attendees, no Dominants are permitted.
Our Discord server is open to everyone 18 years of age and older. Make sure you sign up before the forum so you can test out our server and your headset before we start. If you run into any problems, contact one of the server admins for assistance.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
Want to learn more? Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal. http://submissiveguide.com
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

Don’t Miss February’s Book of the Month: A Submissive's Guide to Your Wants and Needs
2026-02-01 - 2026-02-28 | Submissive Guide on Patreon
We’re thrilled to announce our Book of the Month for February 2025: “A Submissive’s Guide to Your Wants and Needs”!
In this eBook, definitions of wants and needs are broken down into their basic parts so that you can really narrow down what is a priority to you, then explore ways to talk to your partner about your needs.
Read the book’s details on Submissive Guide
How to Get a Free Copy
As a special offer for our community members, sign up for our Library Card tier on Patreon and get your copy for free! Plus, you’ll be supporting positive BDSM education.
Not ready for free books? Cheer Squad Patrons enjoy 15% off, and Students get 30% off every ebook at Shop Submissive Guide. Secure your copy today and enjoy the savings!
Click here to join: https://patreon.com/subguide/membership
Let’s delve deeper together!
What is Submissive Guide on Patreon?
We are a community of new and experienced submissives and the Dominants who support us. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.
Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.
In our Patreon, you will be supporting positive BDSM education for the future. You’ll get access to sneak peeks and behind-the-scenes work for all of our newest educational content. Some of the best Submissive Guide has to offer. We’ll continue the conversation in private chat on Discord. No matter where you are on your journey, we’ll be there.
Join Now- https://subgui.de/patreon

February Discord Munch
2026-02-06 19:00 - 20:30 | Our Discord Server
Our Discord Community Munch is happening Friday, February 6, 2026 at 7PM CST!
This month’s topic:
“If You Could Design the Perfect Dungeon/Play Space”
💡 Whether you’re new or experienced, let’s chat, connect, and learn from one another. 💬✨
📍 Where: Our Discord Server: subgui.de/chat
Bring your positive vibes and join the conversation! 🌟

Join Our February Watch Party!
2026-02-13 19:00 - 20:00 | Our Discord Server
We’re hosting a monthly watch party exclusively in our Discord server – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: “Protocol in Everyday Life” — Subtle Structure in D/s
📅 Date & Time: February 13, 2026 at 7PM CST
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 RSVP in our Discord & mark your calendars! https://subgui.de/chat
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

February Submissive Forum - Romance, Desire & Initiating Connection as a Sub
2026-02-20 19:30 - 21:00 | Our Discord Server
Join us on February 20, 2026, in the Submissive Forum voice chat on our Discord server for our Submissive Forum.
Topic: Romance, Desire & Initiating Connection as a Sub
The Submissive Forum is open to all who identify as an s-type role, including switches with your sub hat on. The forum will present a topic for discussion and then be open to any questions and discussions about submission.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
How to connect to an Age-Restricted Discord server from an Apple device: https://support.discord.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500005292701-Accessing-an-NSFW-Server-FAQ
As with all of our Forums, this is a sacred space that is non-judgmental and confidential. Let’s all offer each other support and guidance in a safe environment. To encourage a safe space for our attendees, no Dominants are permitted.
Our Discord server is open to everyone 18 years of age and older. Make sure you sign up before the forum so you can test out our server and your headset before we start. If you run into any problems, contact one of the server admins for assistance.
To join our Discord server, just click this link: http://subgui.de/chat
Want to learn more? Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal. http://submissiveguide.com
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

Don’t Miss March’s Book of the Month: Submissive Reflection: A Journey of Rediscovery
2026-02-25 08:00 - 17:00
We’re thrilled to announce our Book of the Month for March 2026: “Submissive Reflection: A Journey of Rediscovery”!
A workbook designed to build a clear picture of what your personal submission looks like and how to be the best submissive you can possibly be.
Read the book’s details on Submissive Guide
How to Get a Free Copy
As a special offer for our community members, sign up for our Library Card tier on Patreon and get your copy for free! Plus, you’ll be supporting positive BDSM education.
Not ready for free books? Cheer Squad Patrons enjoy 15% off, and Students get 30% off every ebook at Shop Submissive Guide. Secure your copy today and enjoy the savings!
Click here to join: https://patreon.com/subguide/membership
Let’s delve deeper together!
What is Submissive Guide on Patreon?
We are a community of new and experienced submissives and the Dominants who support us. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.
Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.
In our Patreon, you will be supporting positive BDSM education for the future. You’ll get access to sneak peeks and behind-the-scenes work for all of our newest educational content. Some of the best Submissive Guide has to offer. We’ll continue the conversation in private chat on Discord. No matter where you are on your journey, we’ll be there.
Join Now- https://subgui.de/patreon

[ONLINE] March Community Munch
2026-03-06 19:00 - 20:30 | Zoom
Friday Plans? Let’s Have a Munch.
Our Submissive Guide Community Munch meets at 7 PM CST — and it’s our casual online hangout for community members who enjoy thoughtful conversation, shared experiences, and relaxed connection.
Topic: Kink Myths We Had to Unlearn
Each month we list a loose topic to spark discussion, but this is a social space first. We start there and let the conversation flow naturally wherever curiosity takes us. New? Welcome. Long-time community member? Also welcome. This is about gathering, not performing.
📍 Where: Zoom – https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89078529162?pwd=[REDACTED]
We’ve moved the Munch to Zoom to make joining easier. No Discord account required, better built-in accessibility features like live captions, and fewer platform limitations. Same relaxed vibe — just a smoother way to gather.
We keep cameras off for all attendees to support privacy and create a comfortable, low-pressure environment for everyone. Participation by voice or chat is always welcome.
Bring a drink, bring a snack, bring your curiosity.
We’ll see you at the virtual table.

Join Our March Watch Party!
2026-03-13 19:00 - 20:00 | Zoom
We’re hosting a monthly watch party – and you’re invited!
Each month, we’ll watch BDSM educators’ YouTube videos together and discuss the topics in real-time. It’s an easy, fun way to learn, share insights, and connect with the community.
🔍 This month’s topic: Vetting New Partners
📅 Date & Time: March 13, 2026 at 7PM CST
💬 Live discussion afterward!
🔗 Zoom Link: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/84858429458?pwd=[REDACTED]
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide? The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future education opportunities for our community online. Please click here to join Submissive Guide’s Patreon: http://subgui.de/patreon

March Submissive Forum - Negotiation & Re-Negotiation: When Things Change
2026-03-27 19:30 - 21:00 | Zoom
Join us on March 27, 2026 for our live Submissive Forum discussion on Zoom.
Topic: Negotiation & Re-Negotiation: When Things Change
The Submissive Forum is open to all who identify as an s-type role, including switches with your sub hat on. The forum will present a topic for discussion and then open the floor for questions and conversations about submission.
This event will be held live on Zoom so that everyone can easily join the discussion.
Join Zoom: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/83786193775?pwd=[REDACTED]
As with all of our Forums, this is a sacred space that is non-judgmental and confidential. Let’s offer each other support and guidance in a safe environment. To encourage that safety for our attendees, this forum is reserved for those in s-type roles. Dominants are asked not to attend.
Participants will join with audio only; cameras will not be used during the forum. This helps protect privacy and keeps the focus on conversation.
This event is open to participants 18 years of age and older. We recommend joining a few minutes early to make sure your audio and connection are working before the discussion begins.

Want to learn more?
Since 2009, Submissive Guide’s mission has been to provide down-to-earth educational BDSM content that helps people explore kink and D/s relationships in healthy ways. That remains our continued goal.
http://submissiveguide.com
Able to Help Support Submissive Guide?
The generous pledges from members through our Patreon page help us provide current and future educational opportunities for our community. Please consider supporting our work here:
http://subgui.de/patreon
