I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it's not directed to submissives. In fact, the description of the book says that it's for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though because if we restricted all forms of education to only those that applied to us then we may miss some very interesting information. This is one of those books.
by Robert J. Rubel, Ph.D. is a book about M/s relationships. It starts with a fantastic forward by Jay Wiseman and I appreciated the first few paragraphs that said that if you are a slave you can learn things from the book as well. In many ways, it is a companion to the book Protocols for the Female Slave that I reviewed previously. It covers many topics like who are you, as a Master, what do you want in a slave, how to find that slave, nurturing a relationship and constructing a Household or Leather Family.
All of these things have fascinated me for some time and reading this book I have often stopped to ask KnyghtMare a question or two about how he feels about a certain topic; opening up conversations we wouldn't normally have without the aid of this book. I admit that my shift to calling myself a slave has come out of this book and it is so far going well. It just might open your eyes a bit more to the possibilities in your own life.
Inside the Book:
- Common Terms and Understandings
- Self Examination
- Grappling with Elements of the Relationship
- The Framework of the Relationship
- Finding a Slave
- Beginning a Relationship
- Contracts and Collars
- Maintaining the Relationship
- How's it Going?
How can you, as a submissive, use this book? There are wonderful sections on how to find a slave, that also help with what a Master might expect out of applicants. Examples of resumes, social calling cards, and interviews. Further, it has several very good examples of contracts and how to use them effectively in your relationship.
The author gives a real world feel to M/s relationships, something greatly lacking in the online theater. M/s isn't a fantasy world. It deals with real people, with realistic expectations, feelings, and reactions. It's very down to earth.
Dr. Rubel also explains on a few occasions that his personal view on M/s is very structured and full of protocol and ritual. If you've read his protocols book you' d have a grasp of what is expected in his relationship - a lot of formal address, attire, and behavior. It doesn't fail to come out in this book too - so if you are attracted to a structured relationship this book would help you see what goes into that dynamic as well.
I'll definitely recommend this book to anyone who says they want a Master in their life or are thinking they are a Master. It's easy to read with a lot of personal introspection expected. You'll finish this book a better Master or slave - that I really believe.
- lunaKM's Rating: 7/10
- Paperback: 160 pages
- Publisher: Nazca Plains Corp (July 17, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1887895639
- ISBN-13: 978-1887895637
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