Exploring Play and Punishment in a Long Distance Relationship

Playing by yourself (at the behest of your Dominant) requires a great deal of self-restraint and self-discipline. So how do you have play time when you’re in a long-distance relationship?

Living with Kids While in the D/s Lifestyle

Having kids can be a challenge in this lifestyle but I do recommend being honest with them at some point in their life. They deserve to come to this knowledge just as much as other things in this life. What they choose to do with said knowledge should be up to them.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

The best I can hope for each day, every day is to serve Him faithfully and to the best of my abilities and to love Him unconditionally. I don't lose sight of my place with Him, and we manage a 24/7 lifestyle just fine.

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

One of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive?

Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better

We called the marriage counselor as a last-ditch effort to resuscitate “us” and it was the first move towards the life I had never imagined but somehow of which I had still always dreamt.

Sexual Injury From Fisting - Should We Try Again?

Scared to have sex after a previous severe injury - Kayla gives this reader some advice.

Things Have Changed and I Feel Insecure In My Relationship

Advice for a submissive who is feeling lost and insecure in their relationship when the sex life changes. Kayla tackles this really difficult topic.

A Day in the Life: Bibi

This is an entry in the ongoing series where we take a look at one day in the life of submissives and slaves just like you. Bibi shares a snapshot of here day here.