The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs a part of my development Master trained me to be transparent with my feelings and wants and needs. This included the very things that I wanted or needed that I thought he should be deciding on. If I wanted to go to the store for something I had to learn to ask him for it. If I wanted a kiss or attention, or if I wanted sex; I had to learn to ask for it. There are ways to ask for something that doesn't seem demanding or controlling and I had to work on learning these traits to a request.
Read The Article | Find SimilarBut can you really separate the sex from BDSM? You have to admit that much of what we do during play time is rooted in sexual pleasure and sensation. Even if you are never touched sexually you can achieve orgasm. Does this make it sex or BDSM?
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn many of the groups I frequent a common thread is how to keep the spark alive when vanilla life gets in the way of your 24/7 D/s or M/s relationship. These people feel overworked, stressed and taxed by the daily things that take up their day and they say that they are having problems staying connected as their roles dictate.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust because your kinks are things I'm not remotely interested in doesn't mean we can't stand on common ground. It's okay to be different and yet be friends. People do it all the time.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOn a few sites I frequent I have been getting an impression recently that poly relationships and playing with others outside your primary relationship are not only accepted but expected. I'm uncomfortable with this way of thinking.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn this lifestyle, if you are living it, you take your chances with kids seeing or sensing things. And you learn to be careful and private too. But prepare yourself for the possibility of being outed. It can happen no matter how careful you are.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI am glad to help reduce the stigma surrounding kink. If you are considering coming out kinky, give this article a read.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOther than fulfilling pleasure, your sexual needs are just as important as any other needs you have in a relationship; from love or happiness, trust and honesty, being taken care of or anything else you've determined is a need for you in a relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf you took a break and are trying to re-enter the scene, give yourself time to do so.
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