It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant
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Read The Article | Find SimilarDon't be afraid to speak up when you need or want something different. You never really stop negotiating in D/s.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarFrequent questions and some further resources to up your submissive journaling. This is the end of the 31 Days to Submissive Journaling Series.
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