What's The Big Deal With BDSM Checklists?

For a novice submissive exploring SM, a checklist can open up a world of fantasies or scare you right back into your light kink and rough sex. Checklists are not meant to scare you or overwhelm you, but I've seen lists that are more like lists of all sorts of rare fetishes and extreme play that only a few ever explore. Why you would want or need that on a novice checklist is beyond me.

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Exploring Submission Online: The Very Real Truths Behind the Keyboard

Exploring submission online is a growing reality. Chat networks, IRC chat rooms and websites developed for real-time fantasy all have areas where the D/s subculture thrives online. They have developed online protocols, rituals, belief systems and several new words the enhance the fantasy online.

Understanding Natural Pain Processing Techniques for Better BDSM Play

There are three natural pain processing methods. They are acceptance, denial, and devouring. Two of these methods are very common, and the third being rare.

It's Okay to be New - Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

When you visit this site, I don't expect you to have all the information you need to make educated responses, or to know what to do first, second and next. It's a process.

Taming the Green-Eyed Monster - Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

Jealousy, unfortunately, is a recurrent emotion, even after years of a relationship. You cannot keep it from popping up now and then, but you can prepare yourself for its arrival.

BDSM Basics - How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

How to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with.

How Far Should You Go On a First Date?

My first dates ran the gamut of things you can do and should do and definitely should not do. I do hope that my suggestions and advice will give you some ideas and a solid foundation to start from.

Opening the Relationship When It's Already Rocky

Opening up an already unstable relationship is hard for everyone.

How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep's Clothing

While it's a small few, there are people who can threaten your sense of trust and your own emotions. These are the wolves of the online D/s world.