In this video I’d like to help you understand what it means to be submissive in a Dominant/submissive context as it pertains to BDSM relationships. I want to debunk a few common myths and help you or your partner accept that being submissive can be a healthy expression of yourself or your sexuality.
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Being effective in submission should make you happy in your life. Far too many times I see novices and experienced submissives floundering and wondering how to make their Owner happy without a thought to how to make themselves happy too.
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By taking on an active role in our submission, we not only have more opportunities to be submissive, but we build a dynamic that provides an open exchange of power. Even though as submissives, we permit them to have authority over us, that isn't enough. We're missing a key point here. D/s is an exchange.
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There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. Here's 5 myths you can debunk right now.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSadomasochism is the giving and receiving of sensations. In a lot of cases, this also includes pain. Many of the sadomasochistic tendencies bleed into our relationships in some form or another so what better discussion than to talk about processing pain. Now, no matter what processing method you use, there are ways you can learn to process pain differently to enjoy pain play more fully, allow you to take more pain and to push your pain edge further.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIf you are ready to move beyond primers and how-tos, this is a good book to pick up. The analysis is great, it will make you think and perhaps see things just a bit differently. I know I did.
Read The Review | Find SimilarIf a Dominant approaches you and offers to be your mentor, make sure you clarify with them what you expect from them and for your own sake, keep it platonic. Your personal growth will be much improved and when that perfect Dominant comes along you'll be ready.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust because we have fears doesn't mean we have to let the fears dictate our actions or responses. This means we need to be vigilant with our emotions. By this I don't mean controlling them, it is important to feel negative emotions as well as positive ones, we don't want to repress our negative emotions but rather be aware of them and how they can affect us.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOther than fulfilling pleasure, your sexual needs are just as important as any other needs you have in a relationship; from love or happiness, trust and honesty, being taken care of or anything else you've determined is a need for you in a relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? Let's figure out what you need in order to feel that your power exchange is fulfilling and personal.
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