Emotional Moderation in Submission: Choose Your Emotions Wisely

As submissives, we are expected to express a modicum of restraint, most often in regards to our words and actions. Frequently, we do this to align ourselves with the expectations of the dominants who care for us. I propose that while it is admirable to used restraint and moderation in our words and actions, it is even more important to exercise moderation in our thoughts and feelings.

Morning and Nighttime Briefing: Rituals for Coping with Uncertainty

Twice-a-day briefing rituals are an excellent way to usher more peace and connectedness into our lives during uncertainty periods. By using briefing lists, we can prioritize what's essential—despite the situational ambiguity many of us face in our daily lives.

Readers' View on Polyamory

I'd like to share what you said in the comments. Please feel free to continue the conversation. I'd love to hear what else you have to say about Polyamorous relationships.

Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a munch or party and be faced with the question “What are you into?” The newbie who likes sensual play or enjoys service may feel that s/he is not quite living up to the expectations of the lifestyle.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Lessons in Submissive Speech 3: Asking a Question

You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however, in certain circumstances, there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions.

Recovering From the End of a D/s Relationship

Sometimes relationships don’t work out for whatever reason. Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done.

Solo Coaching - Re-write Negative Thinking

It is within your power to change your beliefs. As soon as a negative thought shows itself it is your job to find evidence to disprove it. It will really help if you write this evidence down.

Domestic Servitude, Struggling With Being Overwhelmed

Are you easily distracted?