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Wants and Needs

Wants and needs are very important to any relationship. When you start to understand who you are as a submissive, it’s time to figure out what you are looking for in a relationship. The difference between wants and needs can be answered in one basic question. Is this something you can live without?

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How To Ask for a Dominant's Attention

How do I ask him for the discipline/attention when I am needing it?

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How to Ask for More BDSM Playtime

Once you open up to allowing yourself to ask for what you want you will find so many more doors open for you.

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How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

Submissive or not; once you've learned how to communicate effectively don't settle for less.

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How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

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How to Ask for What You Need as a Submissive

Don't be afraid to speak up when you need or want something different. You never really stop negotiating in D/s.

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How to Get Started With Sexting and Mobile Kink

Everyone I've talked to says they enjoy a bit of naughty texting here and there. Others like to employ the camera phone for proof that a kinky deed was carried out or for some semi-private exhibitionism. It can be employed for a training tool or a way to stir desires in anticipation for the return to each other.

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How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

Yelling at them may seem like the thing to do, but with the right tools and a dash of inner strength, you can learn how to express yourself without blowing your top.

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How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

Once you have your list worked out and are satisfied with how important it is for you to have these needs met, it's time to express them. Not only will it keep your submissive transparent, but it will provide you with information on your partner's wants and needs. Needs lists are not negotiable. You shouldn't settle and you should never have someone convince you that your needs aren't important.

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How to Talk to Your Dominant About Your Needs and Desires While Submissive

The more you hold in, the less you are really getting in your submission that you could potentially be enjoying. Open your mouth and speak up. Make your live how you'd like it. Stop dreaming of talking to your Dominant and start doing it.

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How To Tell A Dominant That You Are Not Interested In Them

Okay so some of you are thinking, why would you bother with courtesies when the messages you received didn't have any? I'm going to tell you that you need to be the better person. You need to treat them as you wish to be treated even if they don't reciprocate. Let me be clear. I'm hoping you'll learn to be a positive influence in your own life and have as few regrets as possible. Treating someone poorly when a little sugar does the same thing is not a very decent thing to do and not something a prospective or current partner would want.

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